My friend is dating my crush
It is not acceptable, however, to sulk, whine, glare, sling accusations of dishonesty, and generally make life so miserable for an otherwise happy couple that they have to take their relationship underground. And with that in mind, I don’t think the problem is with you, or your relationship, or your general level of decency.Basically, heartbroken or not, this girl’s behavior is inexcusable—not to mention inexplicable, since she was apparently a) not in a monogamous relationship with this guy, b) not present during the six months that his relationship with you comprised, and c) not even a close enough friend to be in touch with either of you while she was away, such that she didn’t find out about your romance until she’d gotten back. But terribly upset, to the point of sulking and sabotage? I think the problem is that your so-called friend came back from wherever she was with a red-alert case of The Crazy.Just be honest: Tell her that you really liked him and didn’t mean to hurt her feelings but that it didn’t seem fair for you to have to pass up the opportunity when you had to pass up so many guys before because of her. If he wanted to hook up with her, he would have chosen her. About the Expert: Rachel RUSSO, MS, MFT is one of Your Monthly Mentors, a Matchmaker, Dating & Relationship Coach, Author & Speaker.She should accept that and move on to someone who is excited about her! She has a master’s degree in Marriage & Family Therapy from Iona College, a BA in Psychology from Rutgers University, and a certification as an Intentional Relationship Coach.That is, unless there’s something you’re not telling me — or, perhaps, something your boyfriend isn’t telling you.If he promised her that they’d be together when she came back, or if he actively hid your relationship from her while she was away…And when you stop the charade and tell her the truth, that won’t be a selfish act so much as an honest, courageous one.
I’m far too busy being curious about why you and your boyfriend would allow yourselves to be bullied into ending your relationship by a person who is by all appearances a spiteful, malicious lunatic.I wonder if he’s with anyone.” If I skip over every guy she crushes on, I’ll never have a boyfriend. In your situation, it seems unfair that you have to pass up so many guys.